Tonight was the first time, probably in my whole life, that I felt deeply, serenely and unapologetically sexy. I was standing in a dimly lit room being witnessed by women, by sisters, by tribe. As I began to move, to dance, to feel the warmth of my skin and let down my hair, the entire world melted away. I fell into the music, I fell into myself, into the safest most vulnerable paradise I’ve ever … [Read more...] about Unapologetically Sexy
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Consultants, Being an Aries, and Playing the Piano
“We’re really good in the beginning,” says my friend Tim during one of our weekly morning sessions. Tim and I get together each Tuesday to talk about how we can build the lives of our dreams. We discuss the energetic brain drain of the modern world of consulting. We explore ways to bottle up our gifts and creative talents (‘productizing’ for the jargon-lovers) so that people can benefit from … [Read more...] about Consultants, Being an Aries, and Playing the Piano
On Shadows and Peace
The shadow side, the darkness we all hold within us, doesn’t disappear just because we become clear. It doesn’t fade out in the immeasurable sunshine of having dealt with our “shit.” It lives on, and some days it takes over. Some days it doesn’t even break up long enough for you to eat or smile or get dressed. And I’m here to tell you that this is okay. We are not here to uphold irrational … [Read more...] about On Shadows and Peace
Trigger Points
Trigger points You think you leave them behind But just when you’re free they come back to remind you of a moment in time of some pain, of some crime And all the good around you falls away and suddenly it becomes impossible to feel love. Above all else you’re disgusted with yourself Reliving a moment someone took from you Believing for a moment you’re unlovable Conceding for a moment … [Read more...] about Trigger Points
Extraction Isn’t Failure
One of the things I’ve learned this year is that continuously putting myself in situations that are challenging, overwhelming or triggering for me in order to “overcome” said situations and achieve non-reactivity is actually a terrible practice. I realized today that it’s like throwing a child abuse victim in a room with his abuser on a regular basis until he no longer feels the pain and agony. … [Read more...] about Extraction Isn’t Failure